Comment preview: As a recovering alcoholic, if you do give him a chance, please make sure you send him to detox first, then rehab, then an aftercare program. Too many people just get sent to detox for 5-7 days and sent back to work. He has almost no chance to stay sober ....

Comment preview: As a problem drinker, a skeptic, and an atheist, let me say that AA is full of shit. I've been to more AA meetings than I care to count. Tons of different meetings, in different states even, and they're all religious meetings. Sure, they'll say things li ....

Comment preview: Have you looked in to AA / NA? EDIT: The Bob Kelso Guide to Alcoholics Anonymous This is based on about a few years of experience with AA, but everything also applies to NA. No, I'm not an alcoholic (well, maybe not). Yes, I still drink. I was just a kid w ....

Comment preview: AA is super helpful for some people, but I - personal opinion here- think you have to be absolutely rock-bottom down-and-out for it to not be a negative force in your life. My family when I was 18 had me go to AA. It's an environment that rewards sobriety ....

Comment preview: I was never an addict, but my father was. He drank all the time growing up (literally never saw him drink a nonalcoholic beverage). He started going to AA around the time I was 12, it consumed our entire family. My parents went to meeting a every night, my ....

Comment preview: I made this throwaway because as a fellow AA member I had to say this. Read it yourself, show it to her and please, please do the right thing. It's great that she is going with you to you AA meetings, and I don't want to be a buzzkill but she is NOT suppos ....

Comment preview: For many people (possibly most people in such a situation) a court order to take some sort of treatment is essentially a court order to go to AA because nothing else is really available. A good friend of mine who has a problem with alcohol recently got a d ....

Comment preview: From [this](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2746426/) study: > As for the scorecard for the other criteria, the evidence for AA effectiveness is quite strong: Rates of abstinence are about twice as high among those who attend AA (criteria 1, ....

Comment preview: I'm writing it already. It starts at an AA meeting. Conker: Hi... I'm Conker. Conker the Squirrel. AA(King Bee, the Sergeant, etc.): Hello K... er, um... Mister Squirrel. C: And I'm... I'm an alcoholic. AA: What brings you to tonight's meeting? C: Well, it ....

Comment preview: > God or higher power is whatever a member chooses God to be. Not true. It can't be yourself. This is the biggest lie in AA - they sell the idea that you have an illness with no cure, that you are weak and powerless and that without AA you will most cer ....

Comment preview: I'm 6 years sober and a frequent attendee of AA meetings. But I don't think you have to buy into the dogma of it. I live in New York City and go to a lot of young people's meetings where higher power rarely means god. For me what worked was the objectiv ....

Comment preview: >Whether it was AA or will-power, he would have emerged a different man, and it's impossible to guess what could have happened. Despite the essay's title, I'm glad that she seems to understand this point. I've been to a decent number of AA meetings beca ....

Comment preview: I, too, hope you never *have to* sit through another AA meeting again. I was court ordered to AA and hated every minute of it. I didn't even concede, as you have, that it was helpful initially. I thought it was BS from the start. However, I ultimately fo ....

Comment preview: Thanks! Absolutely. I'm a son of two alcoholics (mom is in recovery, dad split when I was 13), my brother and sister are addicts, mom's father was alcoholic until he died, grandmother is an addict, all of my mom's siblings are alcoholics, addicts or both. ....

Comment preview: I get a tinder match of a chick I actually stopped and checked the profile of. We have a brief chat in the afternoon that ends when I go to class. A couple hours later I go to an AA meeting, because that's how I stay sober. While smoking I see two girls ge ....

Comment preview: Casting notices are pretty straight forward. This is the only job where you can discriminate by race, sex, age, or whatever the fuck pleases you. I just typed the word "obese" in my casting notices database and found an example for you from the show Glee: ....

Comment preview: I got into a drunken argument with my girlfriend and her 16-year-old daughter, and I got kicked out of the house. That should have been enough, right? Nope.I got a place of my own and treated it like a licence to drink all I wanted, and not to have to put ....

Comment preview: I might be reading too much into this. I found it interesting that Doug's love for Rachel was a substitute for his alcoholism. There was the scene in his AA meeting where he admits something like this. Season 2 was kind of like an addicts downfall story. ....

Comment preview: My dad "ran away" when he was 25 and high on cocaine. He drove from Wisconsin south, not knowing where he was going. He'd just left the Marines, found out his wife was cheating on him, his baby son was profoundly disabled, and he knew he was already an a ....

Comment preview: This thread seems pretty hostile to anyone defending the group, but I just wanted to raise a point that I think is worth considering. This was a support group for people who have faced racism (a fact admitted by one of the white students). This shouldn't b ....

Comment preview: I've been to more AA meetings than a lot of people. Not by choice but because my dad never bothered to find a sitter. I learned about this thing called "rock bottom." You can only go up from rock bottom. It's when you rise from the ashes of your broken lif ....

Comment preview: Come to /r/stopdrinking! There are 18,000 of us there sharing stories, advice and tips. You're not alone!! Also, congratulations on having the courage to make this post. I know for a lot of people (myself included) asking for help feels like an act of weak ....

Comment preview: My father was up to as much as a fifth of whisky a day before he quit drinking. I didn't think that he'd stay sober for more than three or four days, but he stayed sober twenty years before he passed away. When he first left rehab, he started going to at l ....

Comment preview: The twelve steps: > Step 1 - We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable >Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity > Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our ....

Comment preview: Funnily enough it wasn't the only time I acted as a therapist over the phone. Same job but a few months later a woman came on the phone to me, I asked how I can help and her first words were ''I can't deal with the car any more'', and there were a few nose ....